Shame wants to be invisible. She lives humiliated after being abused, discredited, or having been exposed. It’s passive because she has given up on getting, hoping for, or wanting anything. With stooped shoulders and eyes on the ground, she avoids expressing opinions or wishes. She doesn’t feel worthy or deserving, something she tries to compensate for by adopting a rigid, intolerant, and perfectionist posture, even being cruel to herself and others.
Guilt likes to point the finger at self and others. It seeks to escape remorse by flagellating herself with a castrating speech and aims to escape the penalty and obtain forgiveness by pointing out other wrongdoers. Her punitive self-talk leads her to take similar actions, keeping her trapped in an endless cycle of remorse, and victimization. Guilt tends to become moralistic. It yearns for revenge. Regarding others, the attitude is either condemnation or punishment.
Apathy sees the future as bleak. It lacks the emotional resources to get out of this state or the energy to use available resources. It needs others’ energy to gain momentum, which causes them to see her as a burden, so she ends up feeling rejected. Hopeless, she feels worthy of pity.
To grief, life is a disappointment. Everything is hard and done with sorrow. The world is scary, and failure is seen as the price to pay for being alive. He lives as if he has been denied the right to love, feel joy, or have happiness. His attitude drains all the energy around him, pushing people and opportunities away.
Fear sees danger everywhere. He feels vulnerable, and that causes him anxiety. His attitude is restrained and suspicious. Constant worry feels justified as if he had no right to relax. He seeks to ensure security by avoiding loss, which makes him manipulative and possessive, a pose that often results in what he fears most, the end of a relationship or a job.
Desire is insatiable and craves money, prestige, power, or a person, which makes him vulnerable to the influence of others. He may get induced to give up his values in turn for a goal or promise, and he may act in ways that can lead to guilt or shame. It can quickly become dependent on the need for attention, satisfaction, or approval.
Anger is hypersensitive, volatile, and hostile. She wants to punish, banish and intimidate. She is prone to temper tantrums and disagreements and collects injustices and evidence of how everything is wrong. Bitter and resentful, she broods over judgments about others, who react by withdrawing or returning with hatred.
Pride has a good reputation, but it only feels good and secure near the lower levels to which it feels superior. Cause he is arrogant, he treats others with disdain and tends to trample on those he thinks less. The truth is that pride is quite vulnerable — a small slip can drag it back to levels of shame, guilt, and grief. Because he needs to emphasize that he is better, it drives people away. The constant need for recognition prevents him from working in a team or being a leader.